Fan Theories Name: Voto Email: opus_12@hotmail.com Theory: "Between you and me, 'Cuz I don't care..." Personally, this song makes me think of a guy who really loves his girl, but she doesn't want it anymore. He tries to convince he, but when it's obvious it won't work, he acts like it didn't matter, even though he's hurting inside. "I'm only pretty sure, that I can't take anymore..." He's obviously mad.. "When I say out loud, I wanna get out of this, I wonder, Is there anything I'm gonna miss." But then he considers the thought of his days without her, without spending time with her. "I don't see lightning like last fall, when it was always about to hit me." He misses the arguments they had. Even if they were worth nothing, it was still something they shared... Name: Tamra Email: GirlyStar704@aol.com Theory: In this song, I think he is angry at an ex-girlfriend for dumping him, so he acts like she should be asking herself "how's it gonna be." But during the bridge of the song, he expresses that he really misses her. So really he is hurt and he's using anger to mask the pain. Name: Lindsey Email: Librown277@aol.com Theory: "I wanna taste the salt on your skin....The soft dive of oblivion" is about him having sex with her!!! Name: Josh Vest Email: joshvest@webtv.net Theory: Its obvious that the song is about wondering how everything's gonna be when your not with "that special someone" anymore like in my life when i'm on the verge of breaking up with someone i always ask them "how's it gonna be?" you know when for instance she wont have me anymore she'll just have memories and is that truly what she wants. for example: "the hammock by the doorway we spent time in swings empty"- he's saying, what we once had we'll never have again ,its all a memory now. "i wanna taste the salt of you your skin, the soft dive of oblivion"-again a memory but the he's saying is now at that point where all is forgotten in oblivion. so that's my theory Name: Ryan Email: somethinggood18 (AIM) Theory: "Wanna get myself back in again, the, soft dive of oblivion..." When he writes lyrics like this, he usually has double meanings. It may be about "sex" as Lindsay said, but I think it especially means that he wants to experience the feelings of love that he initially felt at the start of the relationship, unknowing of what special feelings are to come about and how it is all going to end. The truly innocent feeling of a start. The "soft dive of oblivion". Name: Cass McCracken Email: owenslife Theory: It's obviously about rethinking about your friendship with your best friend. How's It Going to Be I'm only pretty sure that I can't take anymore, Before you take a swing, I wonder What are we fighting for? When I say out loud, I want to get out of this, I wonder Is there anything I'm going to miss, I wonder how's it going to be, When you don't know me, How's it going to be, When you're sure I'm not there, How's it going to be, When there is no one there to talk to, Between you and me, 'Cause I don't care, How's it going to be, Where we used to laugh, There's a shouting match, Sharp as a thumbnail scratch, A silence I can't ignore, Like the hammock by the doorway we spent time in, Swings empty, I don't see lightning like last fall When it was always about to hit me, I wonder how's it going to be When it goes down How's it going to be when you're not around How's it going to be when you found out there was nothing between you and me cuz I don't care How's it going to be How's it going to be When you dont know me anymore How's it going to be Wanna get myself back in again The soft dive of oblivion I wanna taste the salt of your skin The soft dive of oblivion..oblivion.. How's it going to be when you don't know me anymore? How's it going to be... How's it going to be Song Info Musicians: Kevin Cadogan: Songwriter, Guitar, Vocals, Auto Harp Stephan Jenkins: Vocals Arion Salazar: Bass, Vocals Michael Urbano: Drums Art Gorman: Cello Can Be Found On: Third Eye Blind, 1997 How's It Going To Be US Single, 1997 How's It Going To Be German Single, 1997 How's It Going To Be UK Single, 1997 Alternative Versions Band Comments: "How's It Going to Be' started with an autoharp that Kevin was playing. It's an antique instrument, and it inspired a nostalgic, emotional condition in me. And the lyrics really came out of that very quickly. It deals with a question that we ask ourselves whenever a relationship ends: What does that mean? What it means is that you are no longer intimate, and the transition from friends to acquaintances is a brutal one. Because it reminds us, I think, of all the things ending. 'How's it gonna be/When you don't know me?' There's not an answer to that question." - Stephan Jenkins